Ex-lovers or ex-boyfriends are the most common themes we face in our dreams at night. It doesn’t matter whether the breakup was amicable or heartbreaking, whether it happened a few days or even years ago. Dreams about an ex can appear quite suddenly and can have different meanings. For example, a dream about a recent breakup may be an indication that the dreamer is longing for a reunion, while a dream about a breakup that happened years ago is more difficult to understand.
Loss of an ex
To dream of a reunion with your ex or even a simple positive interaction could indicate a loss and the presence of feelings for this person. This dream is then nothing more than a wish fulfillment.
When someone dreams of a marriage proposal from an ex or a vow that reflects the opposite of a breakup, the dreamer will mistake this as a reflection of their ex’s feelings. In reality, feelings of an ex in a dream are more likely to be a reflection of the dreamer’s feelings. It is important to respond strongly to this reaction so that you do not get unnecessary hope and only convince yourself that your ex still loves you and that you are meant to be together.
To dream of a relationship that has been over for some time reflects your current feelings and emotions that are still a result of that one breakup. It is a sign of loss of your ex, companionship or other positive aspects of the relationship.
Coping with a relationship breakup
Dreaming about an ex, a breakup, the relationship with your ex and all the feelings that come with it are an aid in the working process and help you look ahead and move on with your life.
A new intimate relationship can very often bring back memories of painful feelings from the past that go straight to the heart. That is why it is important to first reconcile with the situation and repair any emotional damage before opening up to a new relationship. Processing negative thoughts and feelings from the breakup will also allow you to acknowledge your grief, become more self-aware, leave the past behind and look forward with a positive attitude.
When a relationship comes to an end, you may feel that you can no longer be on your own and have to rely on someone else to be happy. You also seem unable to resolve feelings of sadness, boredom, and loneliness without jumping into a new relationship. If this is the message of your dream, you will need to discover alternative ways to deal with these feelings and build back your self-confidence and ability to move forward on your own without being dependent on anyone else.
Fear of being hurt again
You think you are moving on with your life, but this failed relationship continues to haunt you in your dreams. An ex or past relationship will pop up in your dreams as they relate to your current life. Here it is important to investigate what the connection is between the two.
The fear of having to relive the same pain and disappointment from your previous relationship can have a major impact on your current relationship. So it is important to keep the two separate. After all, every relationship comes with the risk of a potential breakup and therefore sadness and pain as a result, but usually the relationship is well worth the risk and everyone hopes to one day form a meaningful and fulfilling connection with another person.
Some of these fears can trigger a signal that makes you realize that your current relationship is heading in the same direction as the previous failed relationship. Still, it is important to look at your current relationship objectively. You will of course become more aware of possible dangerous situations, but from an objective point of view you will approach these obstacles in a different way, which will only make your relationship stronger and support you better.
Current problems that remind you of your ex
Relationships can leave scars. Even if you have ended the relationship yourself, this person can still have a major impact. The way another person you love and allow into your life treats you will have a significant impact on your inner spirit. If your ex cheated on you and you feel like you are not good enough, you will probably have trouble fully trusting someone again.
Even if you don’t have any problems directly related to your ex, you may eventually be confronted with problems that occurred during that previous relationship. For example, your ex may appear in a dream as a time marker or a spiritual or emotional thermometer that makes you wonder how your current life relates to that particular moment in your life.
- What happened to you at that moment?
- Were you at school?
- Where did you work?
- Who were your friends?
- What has changed in your life since then?
- What trauma have you suffered from it?
- What life lessons did you learn from it?
- What mistakes have you made?
- What goals were you unable to achieve?
Recognizing that your ex has even more presence in your life than your current partner is a first step in understanding what your dream is trying to convey. To dream of an ex-wife or an ex-husband in particular could even mean that you are currently going through a difficult time or that some part of your life is in need of major changes.
Gain back what you lost to your ex
When your relationship comes to an end, many more ties are often broken than are actually necessary. You may have stopped friends, hobbies and activities that you want to bring back into your life or perhaps something that you were deeply attached to has been broken. When the relationship ends, a part of you is lost because it was simply one of the many aspects that reminded you of your broken relationship.
When you venture into a new relationship after the breakup, you will only notice the void the previous relationship has created. It is at this point that you should try to fill this void by taking back what was lost along with the previous relationship. This way you can perfectly regain that person you used to be, the way you used to think, the positive aspects of the relationship and character traits and ambitions from the previous relationship. You will be able to realize that these things are not determined by your ex or that they are part of something that you need to leave behind. You can put your own life back in order by determining which values are important and which values you should adhere to in your future life.
For example, a dream about a relationship from your youth is a sign that you want to relive the happiness, passion and excitement of your youth in your current relationship or marriage.
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